By Richard Breban

 The devastation you feel when discovering your husband's infidelity can be all consuming. It can be difficult to carry out even the smallest of mundane tasks, let alone think about sorting out the emotional chaos you are in. Trying to get answers to your questions and make sense of it all may seem like a mountain you can't climb, but healing infidelity can be achieved, and if done right, your shattered relationship can go on to be stronger than you ever imagined.
Dealing with the landslide of emotions that come with discovering infidelity should take priority for the moment. Any healing of a relationship can only be done if approached with a clear head and a clear idea of what you want to achieve. The initial feelings of shock and devastation can have a serious effect on your physical and mental well being, so it's important that you don't neglect yourself. Talk to close friends and ask for their support, although you may feel like it, don't hide away from world. Make sure to eat properly and sleep as much as you can. It will take an enormous effort, but your welfare is the main priority at this time.
In this highly emotional state your head will be filled with a mass of emotions. Sadness, confusion, anger, loneliness and feelings of betrayal will all combine to put you in a very negative frame of mind. Getting these emotions under control is an essential part of healing infidelity. Images of the affair will be constantly on your mind, along with unanswered questions that your husband seems unwilling to broach. Constantly pressing your husband for details about the affair will make him retreat still further, so it is important not to push this issue, especially in an emotionally charged state. There are ways of getting him to share aspects of the affair but only after a state of emotional calm is reached.
There are no excuses for infidelity, but many reasons are given. The question as to why he had an affair is a subject all of its own, but often comes down to a lack of communication. Men are generally uncomplicated when it comes to relationships, and at the core is a need for appreciation and admiration for his efforts in life. Time and the repetitiveness of everyday life can take a heavy toll on even the strongest relationships, and the attentiveness that you once showed each other will wane. Subconsciously or not, he will miss that attention, and will be drawn to someone who shows him this. This does not necessarily mean on a physical level, as most affairs start out as the other person being a confidant or sounding board for what is on his mind.

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