By Marguerite Simon

 It can be very difficult living with someone who smokes if you don't. It can certainly cause various problems in your marriage. Most non-smokers find the smell of cigarettes disgusting.

Until they do something about their breath after smoking, you probably won't want to kiss your spouse. This can make intimacy a bit harder. Also, you will probably breathe in the smell since it tends to stay on the clothes and hair.

Health problems should be one of your most important concerns. Since you love him or her, you dont' want your partner to have serious health problems. You may also be concerned about your health too, since second-hand smoke can be hazardous.

It's important that you voice your concerns to your partner if you want them to quit. Don't make the mistake of trying to force your mate to quit however. Quitting smoking can be very difficult, so you shouldn't think your partner doesn't love you because he or she hasn't just quit at the drop of a hat.

One good idea that you can try is suggesting an exercise program. Exercising is a great way to relieve stress. One of the best benefits of exercise is that it helps negate the need to light up a cigarette. Exercise also offers plenty of other health benefits that you should be aware of.

You could also try suggesting that your spouse start cutting back on his habit slowly. If they normally smoke 15, then try to limit the amount to ten or so. You could even offer to hold on to his or her pack and dish them out as necessary. Having limited access to the smokes will certainly help curb the frequency of the habit.

Seeking support from one source or another is vital. The process would go much more smoothly if either of you had friends to help provide support.

It's important that you don't use aggressive pressure tactics to try to force change in your partner. You can certainly make your concerns known, but don't try to force things since it will only cause an argument. Going to a marriage counselor is a good idea if you can't seem to work things out.Doc No.lkhjsdklsd-ssj

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